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January 13, 2015

Book Club Discussion: What Alice Forgot

What Alice ForgotFor our virtual book club this month, we’re talking about What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty, which I introduced here.

Here’s how it works: I’ll throw out a few topics for discussion, and you can write your responses about these topics (or anything else you’d like to say) in the comment section.

Discussion #1: Seriously Funny

When I read the premise for this novel, I assumed it would be a light read—and something that had been done before. (Really, publishing world? Another mom-lit book? And does the world really need another amnesia story?) But enough people recommended it to me that I finally succumbed.

My friends were right: this book has substance. Although it has light, funny moments, it also tackles some weighty themes (such as infertility, waning love, and complicated friendships). But perhaps the biggest takeaway for me was this haunting question: What would the younger me think of the person I’ve become?

What did you think of the tone of the book? Did it make you laugh? Did it make you think?

Discussion #2: A Form of Time Travel

Here’s what the author says about coming up with the premise for this novel:

I had always wanted to write a story about time travel but I found the logistics made my head explode. Then I read a story about a woman in the UK who lost her memory and behaved like a teenager—she didn’t recognize her husband or children. I realized that memory loss is a form of time travel. Alice loses 10 years of her memory. She thinks she is 29, pregnant with her first child and blissfully in love with her husband. She is horrified to discover she is 39, with 3 children and in the middle of a terrible divorce. It’s like the younger Alice has traveled forward in time.

What would the ten-years-ago you have been surprised to discover about the current you? What would your younger self think about the life you are leading now?

Discussion #3: The Role of Memory

The theme of memory is central to this book. Without a decade of memories, Alice is left to piece together what happened in her relationships. In some ways, this lack of memory leaves her at a distinct disadvantage. But in some ways, forgetting may have also saved her marriage.

Each memory, good and bad, was another invisible thread that bound them together.

How important do you think are memories to a relationship? Is it possible to keep a relationship strong without remembering the history you share with another person?

Discussion #4: A Second Chance

Although this story has the added drama of amnesia, it isn’t so different from what most marriages and other close relationships face. We change and we stagnate; we remember and we forget; we hurt and we forgive; we love until we can’t love anymore, and then we love some more.

Early love is exciting and exhilarating. It’s light and bubbly. Anyone can love like that. But after three children, after a separation and a near-divorce, after you’ve hurt each other and forgiven each other, bored each other and surprised each other, after you’ve seen the worst and the best—well, that sort of love is ineffable. It deserves its own word.

What do you think caused Alice’s relationship with her husband to fall apart? Do you think it’s possible to start over and get another chance when a relationship seems broken beyond repair?

I would give this book four stars (out of five). It was an entertaining read, but what I appreciated most was the way it stuck with me and prompted self-reflection about my own life.

How many stars would you give this book?

{Remember: I’ll give a free book to one lucky commenter!}

 

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January 9, 2015

A Gift for You in 2015

stephanie-rische-facebook-iconI’m terrible at New Year’s resolutions, so instead I like to pick a theme for the year. That way there’s a better chance of my actually remembering it come April. This year the theme I picked is “Be present.” I want to be fully present in my relationships. I want to be invested in whatever God has called me to each moment. I want to dig in and be grateful for the right-now.

As I’ve been thinking about the idea of being present, I’ve been overwhelmed with gratitude for all the people who have been present for me. I’m surrounded by people who show up and stick around, and that is a gift beyond words.

So for all of you—my blog readers and friends and family—I’m thrilled to be able to give you this little gift to show my thanks.

You can download this devotional, 30 Days of Grace, for free. I hope God uses it as part of your journey to experiencing more of his grace in the year ahead.

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Instructions for downloading the ebook: Go to StephanieRische.com and look on the right side of the screen. Scroll down until you see “Free e-book.” Then simply type in your e-mail address, and you’ll get an e-mail with the file to download. That’s it!

Special thanks to Sarah at Parisi Images for making my e-book look so beautiful!

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January 5, 2015

Coming Soon!

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Are you looking for a small but meaningful way to kick off the new year? I’m not good at big resolutions, so here’s an idea for mini one.

I wrote an ebook called 30 Days of Grace–just a month of devotions and reflections.

It will be releasing this week!

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December 23, 2014

The Legend of the Christmas Spider

fireplace3Every year before Christmas dinner, my family reads a Christmas story together. Mom has been collecting a large binder full of stories for decades now, and we used to flip through the pages and decide on one together. But we’ve had enough Christmases together that by now we’ve read all the stories. So this year the dish I’m bringing to pass is a story. I hope you enjoy it!

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These days Shalom the Spider wasn’t just moving slower or going gray. Now she was officially, without a doubt, old. She’d raised her own brood of spiders—several sets of multiples—and watched her grand-spiders grow up. Now she even had great-grand-spiders. Generation after generation of her family had been born right here in this little barn in Bethlehem. Some of them had stayed in the village, and some had gone off into the world, seeking new lands and new adventures.

But Shalom had been content to stay where she was—right in the barn where she’d been born and where her mother and grandmother before her had lived. This was where they’d taught her to spin and where they’d spun tales of their own.

Although Shalom had never had an itch to explore distant lands, there was one place she wished she could have visited before she died: the holy city. She’d heard tales about this place from the generations before her, as they told stories late into the night. How the tapestries in the Temple were made of rich purple and blue, how the lamps burned bright and warm all through the night. And most of all, how the people gathered at the Temple to wait for the Messiah who had been promised so many harvests ago.

Some spiders from her village came back to recount stories about their trek to the holy city—about the long climb up the mountain and how the pilgrims would sing together as they climbed so it felt more like an eight-legged dance than an arduous journey.

Every spring, Shalom had dreamed of making the trip, but every spring came and went, and she stayed home. There were offspring to care for, dinners to be caught, webs to be spun, and she could never get away. And now it was too late. Four of her knees were failing her, and they’d never carry her to the top of the Mount now.

It really didn’t bother her much anymore though; after all, she was content to be here in the place she loved, surrounded by her family for this final season of her life. But there were nights when the moon shone silver through the slats of the barn and a familiar ache would set in.

Tonight was one of those nights. So she did what she always did when she couldn’t sleep: she pulled out her special thread pile. She’d been collecting bits of string and fabric ever since she was young. Tiny pieces of cloth that fell off the donkey’s saddle. Sturdy threads from the hem of the farmer’s garment. Scraps of fabric from travelers’ satchels. Even precious purple threads that her friends had brought back for her all the way from the holy city.

Night after night she sat weaving the threads together. As tiny as each piece was, the weaving had grown fairly large after all this time—it was almost the size of the cattle trough by now. Shalom’s friends couldn’t understand why she’d go to so much effort for something so useless. “You don’t need a blanket,” they said. “You’re a spider. And it’s not like you’re going to take it to market to sell it.”

But Shalom wove on, her legs almost on autopilot by now. Truth be told, she didn’t know herself why she did it, only that it soothed her. It felt like something she was made to do.

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The barn animals were all sleeping when she heard unfamiliar voices just outside the barn. Who could it be at this time of night? she wondered.

She saw the woman’s belly first. Oh, poor woman, Shalom thought. Her time is coming soon.

She was right about soon. In a matter of minutes, the usually quiet barn was filled with the squall of a baby’s first cry. A hush rippled through the barn as every animal turned to look at the Child.

What is it about this Baby? Shalom wondered. He looks like any other baby I’ve seen. But her heart wouldn’t stop its wild beating inside of her.

Before she even realized what she was doing, each set of her legs was bending beneath her, bowing before this Child-King.

The mother smiled at the Baby. “This straw will have to do for your bed, little one,” she said. “I’m only sorry I don’t have a blanket for you.”

Without a moment’s hesitation, Shalom rose, not even noticing the way her knees creaked beneath her. The blanket! She could give her blanket to this tiny King.

As Joseph wrapped the baby in the blanket, Shalom’s eyes filled with tears. The Messiah has come to us! I didn’t have to trek far and long to find him. He came here, of all places. And now he’s being warmed by my scraps of thread.

The one who couldn’t be contained within an entire holy city was now wrapped in something so small.

God with us. In this very barn. On this very night.

Immanuel.

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{Author’s note: According to a Polish legend, a spider made a blanket for the Baby Jesus on the first Christmas Eve. As a result, some Polish families decorate their trees with spiders and spider webs.}

4 Comments Filed Under: Seasons Tagged With: Bethlehem, children's story, Christmas, Christmas story, Christmas tradition, Jesus, Polish traditions, spider
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December 17, 2014

The Third Week of Advent: Joy

fireplace3As a kid, I never understood why all the Christmas decorations were red and green except the Advent candles. Now don’t get me wrong, as a girl growing up in the 80s, I was a big fan of the pink and purple combo. But for Christmas?

Recently, though, I was doing some digging about Advent, and I discovered that each candle’s color has a specific meaning. In the liturgical calendar, purple symbolizes penitence and repentance, and it’s used for both Lent and Advent. Those three purple candles stand as tall, solemn reminders that this world is broken, that we are broken. Advent, a time of mourning.

Long lay the world
In sin and error pining . . .

But those candles in the wreath don’t remain cloaked in sadness. On Christmas Day, all the purple candles are replaced with white ones. White—the color of joy. Our mourning is over. The Messiah is here!

Joy to the world!
The Lord is come
Let earth receive her King!

So what about the one stray pink candle in the mix? According to tradition, the pink candle got its start centuries ago when monks were making Advent candles. As they mixed wax for the purple candles, it was almost as if the joy of Christmas couldn’t be contained. The white spilled over into some of the wax, creating the lone pink candle.

And isn’t that what Advent is? Mourning tinged with joy.

In my own life, there’s no doubt about it: sadness can creep into my joy. One minute everything is going great—I’m singing in the shower, dancing in the kitchen, bursting to start a new day. But the sadness can creep in so fast—with a single failure, disappointment, sharp word, or unmet expectation.

But joy? What if joy could creep in too?

Joy is stealthier than sadness, I think. It doesn’t always come with trumpets and fanfare. Sometimes joy sneaks in, more like melted wax. You may not even notice it’s there until you look down and see a rosy hue where there once was a melancholy purple.

That’s how Jesus came too—he who is Joy himself. His incarnation wasn’t brazen; it was quiet, small. But that quietness didn’t diminish the joy. Because joy has the power to seep in and permeate all the mourning, all the sadness.

No more let sins and sorrows grow
Nor thorns infest the ground
He comes to make his blessings flow
Far as the curse is found

Christmas reminds us of one of the best gifts of all: that joy can creep into our sadness too.

It’s as if the third week of Advent is telling us, “Hang on for one more week. Joy will creep in.”

Joy always finds a way to creep in.

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December 12, 2014

Friday Favorites for December…

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Here are a few of my favorite things recently. Enjoy!

For aspiring cooks . . .

This “edible cookbook” is the first cookbook you can actually read, cook, and eat. I think this might be the kind of foolproof cooking I need . . . Edible Cookbook

For my fellow grammarians . . .

If you’ve ever found yourself amused by unnecessary and often ironic quotation mark usage, you’ll get a kick out of this. The 30 Most Unnecessary Uses of Quotation Marks in History

For anyone who likes an encoded message . . .

Did you know that FedEx, Amazon, and Tour de France all have secret messages embedded in their logos? 11 Hidden Messages in Company Logos

For the word lovers . . .

Do you know what golem and claymore mean? How about taffeta and decoupage? If not, it might be because you’re the wrong gender. The 24 Words That Are Most Known Only to Men or Women

For anyone desiring true community . . .

“Vulnerability is less like a sweet golden retriever, all directness and love, and more like a cat—unpredictable, reserved.” Be Brave Enough to Make a Mess

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December 10, 2014

Week 2 of Advent: Peace

frog and toadOne of the holiday traditions at my in-laws’ is the annual Rische Family Book Club. At Thanksgiving this year, inspired by our charming two-year-old nephew Colin, we all brought books we’d enjoyed as children. I remembered loving the Frog and Toad books as a kid, but I honestly couldn’t remember much about them.

So off I went to the library, feeling tall and rather foolish as I crouched beside the pint-sized bookshelves to find Frog and Toad Together. I read the first story planted right there on the carpet, instantly transported back several decades as I paged through the classic brown and green illustrations.

When I got to the end of the story, I grinned, remembering why I loved these books.

I am Toad.

The story “The List” is about a day in the life of Toad that sounds a lot like days I’ve had myself, minus the tweed jacket. When Toad wakes up in the morning, he realizes he has lots of things to do, so he decides to write everything down on a list.

On his list of things to do that day, he includes such important things as wake up, eat breakfast, get dressed, play games with frog, and go to sleep. “There,” Toad says. “Now my day is all written down.” Then he goes about his day, relishing each time he gets to cross something off his list.

When Frog and Toad are taking a walk (item #5 on his list), a strong wind suddenly whisks the list out of Toad’s hand. Frog suggests that they run after it, but poor Toad, paralyzed with disbelief, says, “I cannot do that!” After all, running after his list was not one of the things he’d written down to do that day. Frog, ever the faithful friend, chases after the runaway paper but isn’t able to catch it.

“I cannot remember any of the things that were on my list of things to do,” Toad says. “I will just have to sit here and do nothing.” So Toad sits there and does nothing, and Frog sits beside him.

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It is the second week of Advent: the candle of peace.

Somehow it doesn’t seem coincidental that we would have a sacred reminder about peace in the midst of one of the busiest week of the year. My typical approach is to wait until everything on my list is accomplished before I embrace peace, but it never works. The list, after all, is never all crossed out. It only gets longer as the days march toward December 25.

Do you really expect me to find peace in the midst of all this? I ask God. Can’t you make things settle down and then I can rest? But as I think about that first Christmas, I’m reminded that peace didn’t come because everything was calm and quiet, with each item ticked off the list. Joseph was trying to check into a hotel. Mary was trying to remember her Lamaze. The shepherds were pulling another night shift. The wise men were lugging gold across the Sahara. Not exactly a silent night.

So maybe what God is trying to tell us about peace is that we can’t wait for everything to be in place before we seize it. We have to actively carve out space for peace right in the middle of the chaos. And sometimes that means throwing out our to-do lists (or at least forgetting about them for a while).

So today I invite you to toss aside your lists—the gift list, the grocery list, the baking list—and let them blow away in the wind. Hear your friend Jesus say to you, “Sit here with me and do nothing.”

Sit in the glow of the Christmas lights or the flicker of the candlelight, and just be.

Be at peace. Be still. Be loved. Be.

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December 3, 2014

The First Week of Advent: Hope

fireplace3Right now I’m reading Lila, the brilliant novel by Marilynne Robinson, and although it’s not a Christmas book, Advent fairly drips from the pages.

When we meet Lila, she is newly with child. This turn of events is so surprising, so unforeseen, that she barely allows herself to hold on to the news, let alone speak it aloud.

I imagine her expression must have looked something like young Mary’s at the Annunciation:

How can this be?

She’s been alone for such a long time. Too long, maybe. And she’s never stayed anywhere long enough to let anyone get close to her.

How can she dare to hope that this good man loves her . . . will keep on loving her? Surely if he knew everything, he would ask her leave. Or install barbed wire around his heart.

And now . . . a baby? To think that she could be part of bringing something good into this world after dwelling in so much darkness? She can’t allow her heart to crack open even a sliver for such a hope. And so she tries to seal herself off, to make sure no hope leaks in:

She thought a thousand times about the ferociousness of things so that it might not surprise her entirely when it showed itself again.

But as the story goes on, hope wears her down, wrapped in an overcoat of unrelenting love, and she finally surrenders to it.

Let it be to me as you have said.

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There’s a song I love that goes like this:

Hope hears the music of the future
Before it’s played
Faith is the courage
To dance to it today

The first week of Advent stands for hope, and I think it’s the hardest candle of all to keep lit. Hope asks big things of us. It requires that we let go of the ferociousness we imagine and instead cling to the promises we’ve been given.

Here’s the other thing about hope: it makes us look like fools at times. Have you ever seen someone dancing to music no one else can hear? It’s ridiculous, at best. Hope means tuning our hearts to the melody God has placed inside us, long before the notes hit the air. But hope like this is worth the price, because this kind of hope does not disappoint.

During this Advent season, may we dance to the hope of his promises, even amid the silence.

Hope is imagining God’s future into the present.
N. T. Wright

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November 26, 2014

Free Thanksgiving Printable!

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As a way to say thank you to all my blog readers, I would like to share this free Thanksgiving printable with you, designed by my friend Julie Chen at Life Verse Design. She is amazingly talented, and I encourage you to go to her site to find lovely notecards, inspirational art, plaques, and personalized pieces for your home.

Go to this link to download your printable copy of the piece above.

May your heart (and belly) be full this Thanksgiving! I thank God for each one of you.

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November 25, 2014

Teach Me to Savor

fallI went on my final bike ride of the season a couple weeks ago—one of those sun-kissed days when the light bounces off the red maples and the golden poplars, the sky is an impossible shade of blue, and the air is rich with the smell of earth and bonfires. Every time the breeze blew, the sky rained leaves, the yellow and red confetti falling in fistfuls as I rode.

Of course, at the time I didn’t know it would be the last ride of the year. But here in the Midwest, November is notoriously fickle, and winter has a way of sneak-attacking you.

My husband and I have ongoing discussions about the merits and demerits of fall. He is Mr. Summer, relishing the long, hot days so he can ride his bicycle to his heart’s content. I tell him the things I love about fall, but he shakes his head, unconvinced. As I tick off the highlights of the season—apple crisp, walks in the woods, s’mores over an open fire—he logically points out that you can do all those things in the summer, but with warmer weather and longer days. “Fall is just the warning that winter is coming,” he says.

It wasn’t until I was riding my bike that day that it finally hit me that that’s precisely its appeal.

The particular beauty of fall comes because you know it won’t last.

Summer, with its endless days and languorous nights, its extravagant greens and lush flowers, seems to stretch on without end. But in the fall, reminders are everywhere that this beauty is fleeting. The trees chameleon overnight. Branches shed their leaves in a single storm. The nip in the air arrives out of nowhere one morning. Without warning, it’s time to pull the sweaters out of hibernation.

Here’s what I think: Autumn is God’s reminder to savor.

It’s a wake-up call that no season, no matter how wonderful, no matter how painful, will last forever. Fall is God’s way of saying, “Each day is a gift. Don’t take it for granted—but don’t hoard it either. Just see the beauty of today and soak it in.”

If you find yourself in a season of bliss right now, don’t fear the changing seasons ahead. Savor the gifts of the right-now. And if you are going through a painful season, look for beauty amid the dying. Savor this—yes, even this.

Autumn . . . the year’s last, loveliest smile.
William Cullen Bryant

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